We read for March 11th from "A Teacher's Daily Guide to Success", "Believe in yourself".
The "buzz word" in education and psychology for much of the past 20 years was "self-esteem". School children across America were taught in small grou...ps by their school counselors the importance of self-esteem. Licensed Professional Counselors and Social Workers who worked with school aged children and youth toiled away daily at instilling in them the importance of believing in themselves, so much so "self-esteem" and "self-concept" both became overused words which today seem to not have the significance they should.
In my years working with young and adult clients alike, I encouraged believing in oneself through an 8 step process:
1 - Set goals. When you set goals, you have control.
2 - Recognize when you achieve your goals, this will build confidence.
3 - Consider reasons for failure. Everyone fails to achieve some goal, but if learning from the failure, success is more likely in the future.
4 - Use realistic expectations to judge success. Do not expect to run a four minute mile, it takes training and conditioning to run a four minute mile. Judging success by looking at the gap between where one begins and where one want to be is vital. This perspective helps gauge what remains to be accomplished. Judge by looking at progress from 2-3 years ago or 2 months ago. This helps us know how far we have come. Both perspectives are valid.
5 - Listen to critics, but never accept self-doubt. Some critics will "bite into" our bubble to tear us down only to make themselves look bigger and better, while others will offer critical advice to help us make changes for improvement.
6 - Give time and energy to others. When we do this, we get positive feedback and respect from others. These are building blocks for self respect...which is essential to self-belief.
7 - NEVER give up on our dreams, goals or aspirations; we never realize them until we put them into action.
8 - In believing, we will find our best. Believing in ourself is the key to personal success in life.
Keep looking up. : ) AJ
The "buzz word" in education and psychology for much of the past 20 years was "self-esteem". School children across America were taught in small grou...ps by their school counselors the importance of self-esteem. Licensed Professional Counselors and Social Workers who worked with school aged children and youth toiled away daily at instilling in them the importance of believing in themselves, so much so "self-esteem" and "self-concept" both became overused words which today seem to not have the significance they should.
In my years working with young and adult clients alike, I encouraged believing in oneself through an 8 step process:
1 - Set goals. When you set goals, you have control.
2 - Recognize when you achieve your goals, this will build confidence.
3 - Consider reasons for failure. Everyone fails to achieve some goal, but if learning from the failure, success is more likely in the future.
4 - Use realistic expectations to judge success. Do not expect to run a four minute mile, it takes training and conditioning to run a four minute mile. Judging success by looking at the gap between where one begins and where one want to be is vital. This perspective helps gauge what remains to be accomplished. Judge by looking at progress from 2-3 years ago or 2 months ago. This helps us know how far we have come. Both perspectives are valid.
5 - Listen to critics, but never accept self-doubt. Some critics will "bite into" our bubble to tear us down only to make themselves look bigger and better, while others will offer critical advice to help us make changes for improvement.
6 - Give time and energy to others. When we do this, we get positive feedback and respect from others. These are building blocks for self respect...which is essential to self-belief.
7 - NEVER give up on our dreams, goals or aspirations; we never realize them until we put them into action.
8 - In believing, we will find our best. Believing in ourself is the key to personal success in life.
Keep looking up. : ) AJ
No comments:
Post a Comment
Feel free to comment regarding Allen James' Calendar Books. Please note all comments are screened prior to posting. AJ