Allen James' Daily Guide to Success series - "A Graduate's Daily Guide to Success"

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Calendar Books by Allen James' reading for May 6th from "A Graduate's Daily Guide to Success", "Be patient with your parents".

Young adults, whether graduating from high school or college find themselves embarking upon a new chapter of the...ir lives. With this new chapter comes an independence never yet experienced. With the insurgence of those who have been tagged, "boomerang kids", more and more college graduates in the United States returning to the "nest" following college graduation, and more high school gradates hesitating to "fly the coop", relationships which have been parent driven over the past several years find themselves in precarious positions.

"It may be reassuring to some parents with students moving back home, and to those students as well, to know that they are not alone. According to a survey conducted by the consulting firm Twentysomething, Inc., 85% of 2011 college graduates moved back home, at least for a while. The U.S. Census Bureau’s 2011 survey America’s Families and Living Arrangements, found that between 2005 and 2011 the percentage of individuals between 18 and 34 living at home has increased for all groups. In the age group 25-34, the percentage of males living at home has increased from 14% to 19%. The percentage of females in the same age group living at home has gone from 8% to 10%. In the 18-24 age bracket the percentage of males at home has gone from 53% to 59% and females from 46% to 50% (this includes students living in college dorms during the school year)" (www.collegeparents.org).

While parents must demand a following of rules when their young adults remain or return home, they must also realize they are no longer dealing with "children". This becomes a difficult and stressful situation for sometimes aging parents if not parents who still have children in the home as well as those parents who have a more than busy schedule to keep up.

It takes planning and communication for both sides of this coin to make the best of a not so good situation. Set out the "house rules" prior to the move back, and make sure to talk about budgets, expenses, business expectations, life lessons. Parents, attempt to let your student take the lead. Don’t allow either of you to slip back into old childhood routines.

"There is a good chance this phenomenon known as "boomerang kids" is here to stay for a while" states CollegeParents.org. Recognizing your role and working with your student to find a new way of living together and appreciating each other, will be yet another opportunity to forge a strong adult relationship.

Be patient with your parents. As they learn to adjust the "rules", or as they learn to adjust their perceptions toward who you now have become as a young adult, there are bound to be moments of stricture between the camps.