Calendar Books by Allen James - Daily Reading - "A Teacher's Daily Guide to Success"

April 7th brings a reading from "A Graduate's Daily Guide to Success"..."Be a confidant to someone".

Yesterday's reading,

Personal success comes when we build the trust of others. Being a confidant means we can keep others' disclosures to us confidential. There can be nothing more disappointing than hearing something we've told in confidence repeated.

Having that one person whom we know we can tell anything and not be judged and neither will we have to worry about their "telling tales" can be very stress relieving. Being trustworthy is a talent worth cultivating.

Be a confidant. Be a real friend. Keep looking up. :) AJ


And today's daily reading is taken from "A Teacher's Daily Guide to Success"...an extension of yesterday's reading..."Have a confidant".

I've been asked the question many times throughout the years, "Dr. Harryman, who do you go to when you need someone to talk to?", as well as, "So who heals the healer?". Even the most "together" individual needs a confidant from time to time.

In order for a therapist to be skillful in the practice of providing good counsel we must first start with ourselves. As part of my training I had to undergo therapy myself. It was then I learned the value of having a confidant as well as being a confidant.

A therapist's first patient is themselves. If we continuously explore how we define our own mental health, we will be more present and successful in helping others do the same. And more importantly, we will be more happy and fulfilled in our life's work.

On average, we spend 4 years of graduate school learning how to facilitate mental health for others. Very little of this time is spent learning how to do this for ourselves.

How we define our own mental health is not something which remains constant over time. It is malleable and will change as we do. But there are some core underlying ingredients which should always be addressed throughout our lives.

Lifestyle: Physical Activity, Healthy Behaviors
Nutrition
Family History
Mind-Body: Stress Management, Emotional Health, Social Connection
Spirituality: Finding a connection which results in meaning & purpose

Focus on defining these five core elements which recur as vital to our personal success, and take the time to...

Have a confidant. Keep looking up. : ) AJ
"Provide good counsel", mentioned how rewarding it can be to be a good listener when someone needs a lending ear. Today we look at the vitality of not only being the good ear but as well keeping what we hear to ourselves.