Calendar Books by Allen James - Daily Reading - "The Journey: A Calendar Book"

Yesterday's reading was "Cultivate your relationships". Today's reading, May 22nd, relates to yesterday's and can be a determining factor in your personal success...."Those relationships which don't work out, let go" (James, 2012).

Too often we "hang on" to relationships which either don't work out for one reason or another or relationships we KNOW aren't good/healthy for us. We all know which relationships I'm speaking about. When we develop relationships out of convenience and fail to consider those aspects necessary to maintain a successful connection with someone, they generally are empty relationships; we add nothing to them and they add nothing to us and are destined to fail. More than physical presence is required to cultivate a meaningful connection, yet we keep people around out of habit or fear of confrontation.

We’ve all held on to someone who didn’t deserve to be there before. And most of us still have someone in our lives who continually drains us: Someone who doesn’t add value. Someone who isn’t supportive. Someone who takes and takes and takes without giving back to the relationship. Someone who contributes very little and prevents us from growing.

Relationships cut from such a cloth are very unhealthy; they lack to ability to fulfill us and hamper our living a meaningful life . So when relationships don't work out, let it go; leave it behind and move forward.

When we're at the point of knowing such a relationship exists in our life and we've not been able to "fix" it, we can end it altogether. Clearly this isn't an easy task, it may be a family member, a "friend", a lover, someone at work; when a relationship is draining our life, it’s perfectly acceptable to tell them, “Gotta move on”.

Moving on is perfectly appropriate. We owe it to ourselves to do just this. We owe it to ourselves to be happy in our relationships. Remember we are in control of our lives only.

Note though, earlier I stated they add nothing to us, nor do WE add anything to them. We must do our part. We must add value to the relationship; by displaying how much we care, displaying our compassion through our actions, doing what we can to enhance the relationship.

Don't get dragged down by others, as well work to not drag others down.

Keep looking up. : ) A